Good News First, as many of you know i have been on a diet for the past three months. Eating salad, yogurt, water and sometimes fat free ice cream, also diet soda, and once a day coffee.
i had lost twenty five pounds now. So to that to me is just so exciting, believe me i couldn't do any of this without my husband and the Good Lord and of coarse my family cheering me and my close friends who care about me.
On a sad note, I got news the other day that my friend husband died, from a car accident. She said the police had told her that they thought he had fallen asleep at the wheel. I just don't know what to say, except I am so sorry, I didn't want to say that he is in a better place now, and is healthy and not sleepy and all of that, because she had lost her mother and grandmother a few years ago a couple days apart from each other and now her husband.
So I didn't know what to say, I try to make her life, that probably was the wrong thing to do and I try to talk about other stuff that too was probably the wrong thing to do. I just had no clue what to do and Now i have no idea what to do or what to say.
I kind of feel like a dum dum, cause I know she probably was looking for some kind of comfort or something else. But I had no clue about anything. I struggle for words and in my head say something meaningful something that she could take comfort in. I had nothing. But before her husband death, she was standing by his side through his whole cancer, he was i remission and was doing fine, and then Sept 9 coming home he gets in a accident and dies. I am still blown away and don't know what to say.
Her faith now in Our Good Father is not there anymore and I don't know how to tell her or say to Her how good our God is because I just don't think she will believe especially with losing her best friend, soul mate, her husband. So tell me, how can i help her get through this without saying all the wrong things and doing all the wrong things.
Psalm 31:9 (New King James Version)
Have mercy on me, O LORD, for I am in trouble;
My eye wastes away with grief,
Yes, my soul and my body!
1 comment:
IN this situation the best thing that i can offer is to let her know that you are there for her as a friend, listener and sounding post...If you live close enough offer to help with a few meals or something.... Just dont say 'I know how you feel!" its one of the worst things that you can do... I know this from a professional atnd point. She just needs time to work through this. People have the tendancy to mask their own fear with the statements of disbelief in faith....... Just be there to listen for her!
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